A Submissive’s Wisdom

Today’s Journal Prompt
July 6, 2024
What wisdom would you like to share with others?

So often people come into our lifestyle, eager. Eager for the sensations. The pain they receive or give to another. The pleasures the can feel sparking up and down their spine. I think for a lot of people, discovering that this type of sex is possible (and widely enjoyed) is like sticking a fork in an outlet or wrapping your fingers around an electric fence line: it will sure as fuck awaken every nerve in your body. I have watched as people come in, all bright and shiny and new, for over decade. I have watched their enthusiasm override their instincts that work to keep them safe. I was one of those people in the beginning too. Even now I watch people get nothing more than that- a string of sensations that fade quickly after that initial zap. My wisdom is that those people are missing out.

It’s no secret to the people that know me that I don’t generally do pick up play. In my years in and out of the community, I have played twice with people that I wasn’t in relationship with, and it took a significant amount of courage on my part to approach both of those people. The only reason it worked for me then was my complete respect for the skills that the Tops had, and a desire to experience something that was not, could not be offered to me by my dominant at the time. While both were good experiences in the bigger picture of things (I was not injured, the scene went well, etc), they both were missing something. That…