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Dominance From a Distance
Distance is a funny thing. Sometimes it doesn’t matter the amount of miles. If you can’t have contact with your partner, 5 miles is the same as 500.
My Miss and I don’t live together. In a typical week, we spend Wednesday evening together for a date night out and Saturday night together at her place. If there is a holiday where we are both off work, we usually spend that time together, but our work schedules are different enough that things don’t always line up. When you add in working around my custody schedule, her wife and child, and other events, we don’t get as much face to face time as we would like. While our dynamic lives in my heart on a 24/7 basis, and there are things I do daily for that, it isn’t physically present all the time.
This week, Miss is on vacation with her wife celebrating their anniversary. In a different country. It’s a different kind of distance. Not only is the physical distance between us greater, our communication has had to take a different route. She has requested that I write about things that can be done to acknowledge a dynamic from a distance, things that connect us when we can’t be together.
We were able to put some things in place before her trip that has helped us connect while she is gone. I thrive on face to face time with her. We have learned that putting things into a Google calendar is effective for both of us. I like being able to look into my calendar and see that time with her is coming up; it brings me joy just in the process of looking forward to the scheduled time…