It’s about the Journey

We all start somewhere small. We go about our daily lives, not daring to express the thoughts that exist in the deep recesses of our imaginations. And one day we encounter a person or a movie or a book that illuminates what we were afraid to admit we liked and everything comes into view. And once we see it, acknowledge the desire to know more, we can never look away again, never pretend that desire isn’t there.

It’s meant to be a journey, one that teaches us about ourselves along the way. When we rush along the path, give into frenzy, we grow too fast and often there are consequences for skipping over things. I’m not saying that is “one true way” to become a submissive, to be trained, nor that there is a pivotal moment where a submissive reaches enlightenment and transforms into the ultimate slave. But what I have found to be true is that engaging in a D/s dynamic on either side will expose all of the cracks in your foundation.

I was a gifted and talented child that grew up into a perfectionist adult, always striving to be better, and often refusing to rest. I have a praise kink, and I strive to gain recognition, if only from myself. But I am a harsh task mistress and always see work that isn’t done, rather than everything that I have accomplished.

One of the hardest skills for me to learn is the ability to step back from my own judgement. As a person who feels a sense of belonging to another person, I have had to learn that sometimes, it isn’t up to me to define what perfect is, what satisfactory is, or even what…