Question 7 for Deeping a Dynamic

“What are the rituals — daily, weekly, sexual, emotional — that would help you feel held?”

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I think when it comes to rituals, it’s less about what the ritual contains and more about how it is used- the consistency, the intent, the connection behind them. It is nearly pointless to enact a ritual that either side of the dynamic is unable to uphold. So rituals shouldn’t be so complicated or ill-timed that they aren’t able to be regularly completed, or that they are completed in a rushed manner because the rest of the world is pressing in. It is for those reasons I don’t generally like rituals that have to be completed at a certain time each day. The pieces of my day fluctuate frequently and I often don’t know where I will be at a certain time or how busy I will be.

All of that being said, I like rituals that are meant to energetically connect me to my Dominant. If the ritual is “each day” do a particular ritual, that is far more accomplishable. I am even comfortable with texting my Dominant when I do the activity, so that she is aware it has been done. There are rituals that do not happen everyday or on a regular schedule.

It has become a ritual that I wait kneeling for Miss with a towel when she showers. Even if we shower together and I get the pleasure of washing her hair, I get out first, do not dry myself, and wait with her towel outside the shower door. There is a mindset that occurs for me when I wait with her towel. I tend to keep…