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What Does Safety Mean to a Submissive?

She Writes Chaos
5 min readJan 8, 2025

Today’s Submissive Journal Prompt

January 05

What does being safe mean to you?

There are many different kinds of safety. So let’s break it down

I think the most obvious go-to is a sense of physical safety. We want our bodies to not come to harm. Whether this is seeking safety from the world at large- we don’t want to be assaulted by someone in the street or hurt in a car accident- or seeking safety in our relationships, we has humans generally have a guiding instinct to stay at of harm’s way, including internal processes that occur within the brain as a response to potentially hazardous activities.

Another type of safety is emotionally safety. When we seek another’s company for a relationship of any kind, we want to be with people who make us feel good, or at the very least don’t make us feel horrible. We are supposed to look for people that support our sense of self, encourage us as we work toward goals, and reinforce confidence over self-doubt. These things are more important as the relationship grows in influence over our lives. Think of the level of impact a statement can have when made by an acquaintance versus if the same were said by a lover or family member.

Mental safety is a close relation of emotional safety, as the two are interconnected. While emotional well being controls how we feel, mental well being controls how we think, which can influence everything else. When our mental safety is impacted, the…

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She Writes Chaos
She Writes Chaos

Written by She Writes Chaos

Polyamorous girl, submissive, poetry writer. Here are my thoughts, judge them as you will.

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